Yahoo Autos This Dating Coach Went Viral For Calling Out The 4 Most Common Mistakes That "Inexperienced Men" Make
Since dating can sometimes feel like an Olympic sport, it can be helpful to receive support from an expert who may know a thing or two about love and relationships.
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Enter Blaine Anderson — otherwise known as @datingbyblaine — a full-time dating coach who has coached more than 1,500 men over the past decade. Blaine recently went viral on Instagram by sharing the most common mistakes she sees "inexperienced" men make.
Blaine told BuzzFeed that she considers "inexperienced men" to be: Men who "typically haven't been in a [romantic] relationship before, question their approach when interacting with women romantically, or doubt themselves because of negative or limited past experiences with women."
In the video, Blaine begins by stating the first common mistake most inexperienced men make is coming on too strong.
According to Blaine, if a man were to receive a woman's number on a Friday night, they shouldn't be sending a "good morning" or "good evening" text on Saturday.
Next up, their second mistake: masking their feelings.
She went on to explain that women don't want a man to play it "coy" or listen to a pick-up artist that "negs" them.
Blaine says the third mistake is reading too much into everything.
Blaine explains if a woman says "K" it just might mean "ok!"
And finally, the fourth mistake is not staying present.
Blaine followed up by saying that if men's minds are always jumping onto the next thing they're going to say, they're probably not listening and it will most likely show in the conversation.
When Blaine posted this video, it garnered over 600,000 views and more than 300 comments, where people expressed their thoughts on the subject matter — and they were pretty split.
For instance, some people agreed with Blaine's relationship advice.
Whereas others were unsure of the interpretation Blaine offered.
After watching this video, I wanted to learn more — so I reached out to Blaine. She explained that she completely understands why there might be confusion when it comes to this advice. "As much as I love creating Instagram Reels, the short format isn't always ideal for sharing nuanced advice, and I may have inadvertently sent the wrong message here."
"It's absolutely OK to text someone the day after you've met them," Blaine told BuzzFeed.
"The point I'd wanted to make with that Reel is that inexperienced guys often try to initiate small talk with women they've just met via text (e.g. messaging 'good morning' the next day). Perhaps it's an attempt at being coy. Rather than directly asking the woman out, the guy thinks he should stall and text. Regardless, trying to carry a conversation with someone you barely know via SMS is almost always a mistake," she continued.
